How To Pray Correctly & Get What You Want!

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Posted Dec 5, 2008 8:30 pm

When we think of Prayer we often think of being in church or attending a Religious function such as a funeral or life emergency but there are many other reasons to pray or ask for help.

I’m going to try to simplify a lot of the mystery surrounding why we may not get what we ask for or what is the proper way to ask for help. The word’s Prayer and Meditation are interchangeable for those that Meditate.

Even though what is written here may look simple, this blog is a lot deeper than the words can convey but I wanted to make it simple enough that anyone can follow these steps to obtain their goals and full potential.

1.   Connect with your Angels or God before you start praying.

When you call someone on the phone you don’t start talking once you’ve dialed the number do you?  You normally wait until you reach the party you want to speak to before you start communicating.  Just relax and wait until you feel that you’re connected to Spirit before you start.  Some people can see or know when their Guides or Angels are there with them so you’ll need to develop your own way of doing this.

2.   Pray for your needs, ask and you shall receive, ask not, receive not!

You normally won’t get your Guides or God to help you with something specific until you ask for their help, Like the old preacher once said; Nothing from nothing, equals nothing”.  You ask for nothing, and you receive nothing!

3.   Consistent Prayer is a way to weave your Spirituality into your life.

When you pray or meditate on a daily basis you draw your Guides and Angels closer to you and that will help develop your communication skills with them.

4.   Prayer is a way to receive mercy and attain grace for something, the more we ask the more we receive.

Once we acknowledge our shortcomings and ask for forgiveness, that allows Spirit to work in our behalf to receive Mercy & obtain Grace for our negative thoughts and actions clearing the way for more positive progress.

5.   Give thanks for what has already been given to you each day.

One thing that many people fail to realize is our Guides, Angels, and Helpers work tirelessly in our behalf every minute of the day. Even though you may not know each and every thing that is done for you is not a reason to ignore this fact and not give thanks for their assistance.

6.   Prayer is a way to open your Spirituality to higher learning.

Praying gives more attention to your Guides and Spirituality in general which in turn will open more doors for more learning and understanding. It also will help protect you from many unknown negative elements that you may encounter throughout the day (people, places, and thought forms).

7.   Pray with intent, mean what you say, say what you mean and leave the fluff out.

Speak to your Guides or God just as you would anyone else, don’t try to make something sound right, just speak or pray in a normal manner just as if they were standing in front of you. You can talk to them in your car, while outside, or in a quiet place in your home. I find being outside is more powerful since you’re connecting through nature, kinda like a High-speed Internet of prayer.

8.   Starting your day with prayer is better most of the time since it sets the boundaries for the rest of your day.

If you want to have patience and understanding at work or school , it’s better to lay out what you want your Guides to work on throughout the day for you.

Like the old saying; “It’s easier to ask for permission than pleading for forgiveness”. Knowing what to expect before your day begins reinforces that energy in your life.

9.  Be very very specific on what you want.

This is very important for many reasons, if you state that you want a new car and then think: “Oh, I can’t afford that, or, my insurance will be too high” then you’re just sending a conflicting message to your Guides and they will cancel your request.  You can’t place restrictions on your Guides or Angels once you make a request since those conditions will normally convey to them that you either really don’t want something or you don’t deserve it, in which case your Guides will just stop in their tracts and wait for you to make up your mind..

10.  Keep your emotions out of prayer, no begging.

There are times when you can or will be emotional when you pray or meditate and that’s fine but it really doesn’t help you when your emotions get out of hand and interfere with your communication. Try to be centered and grounded so you are clear about what you’re asking your Guides or the Angels to do for you….If you’re confused then it’s safe to say they will be confused too.

11. Don’t waste your time asking for something you can’t handle.

I hear a lot of people say that they pray to be a millionaire or have tons of money when they can’t even balance a checkbook. Your Guides typically will not do something that can eventually cause you harm.  If you had a lot of money and flashed it in front of your friends or caused someone to rob or possibly kill you over it, then it’s not going to happen.  Ask for what you need and not what you want since that would be the easiest way to get what you desire.

12. The time you spend on prayer is not something that most people understand and it can limit your success so keep it brief.

I’ve attended churches all my life where preachers seem to be trying to set a new Guinness World Record for the longest prayer. It’s not only aggravating, it’s unnecessary and counterproductive.

I can only pray for about 15 seconds at a time and my Guides & Angels will disconnect from me…I must have been a pay phone in a previous life and my minutes (seconds) are up based on my contract with God. It would take too long to explain this but it’s a part of my Life Contract that I don’t pray over 15 seconds at a time.  I guess I forgot to read the fine print in my contract and this was something I discovered later in my life and then I found out it was part of my agreement before I came here.

Some people may be able to pray for hours at a time but I have the Rachel Ray plan that says I have to do it in a hurry.  If you feel that no one is listening to you after 5 min or 6 min then that may be a sign that you have a limitation in that area in your Life Contract.  One of these days I’ll get around to writing a Blog on this subject but it’s very technical and I’m hesitant to open that can of worms yet.

13. When you say “Amen” understand & know what that means.

When you say Amen at the end of your prayer it doesn’t mean “The End”, it means that you’re affirming or believing that what you’re praying for will come true. It literally means “I believe” or “So be it/Let it be”.  What you’re suppose to do is LET IT GO! once you pray for something so it can come to you.  If you keep praying over and over for the same thing it can be like a Yo Yo to your Guides and make them think you don’t believe it will happen.  It’s ok to repeat a prayer but don’t harp on the same thing too often.

Think of a prayer as a note tied to a pigeon that you want delivered. If you prematurely keep calling the same pigeon back to change the same message, it will never get a chance to deliver it will it?.

Many Blessings!


{ 40 comments… read them below or add one }

Yvonne August 25, 2014 at 9:45 pm

Hi Monte,

I like your story, ‘Miracles and Inspiration–why you shouldn’t give up’. My background was very difficult growing up with an abusive parent. I feel as if I have never truly belonged anywhere in my life. I still don’t know what my true career path is and I’m in my 40′s. I am currently looking for work, a good PT job to tide me over, until I can find something more permanent. I hope to have more college in a couple of years. I am scared about money and I’m not sure how I can live on so little. My only talents are some psychic abilities and interest in writing. I am most grateful for any real life direction regarding career.
Thank you very much. Blessings!


Psychic Monte August 26, 2014 at 10:42 pm

Hi Yvonne,

I understand your situation and you’re not alone for many reasons.. A lot of people that are on their Spiritual path feel the same way as you do over lacking a feeling of knowing their place in the world. Having your Psychic abilities should allow you to attract some income if you use your gifts out of love for others and helping them with your inspiration. You may need to pay attention to your immediate need of survival and take whatever job you can get until you can get your feet on the ground.. The PT job avenue is the best that you can probably obtain at the moment but you also need to ask your friends and family for help with locating a job as well. 85% of all jobs are obtained through word of mouth so don’t rely solely on newspapers or online job classifieds since only 4% of people find one that way.. Say your prayers and use one of them from my Prayers blog ( HERE ).



Carolyn September 11, 2012 at 7:08 pm

Hi Monte,
I came upon your site because of my interest in the Natalie Halloway case. I read your smudging and I will try this eventually. I am concerned that there is something that has been following me and I think that it’s somehow getting physical to where I wake up with bruises on my thighs. Can you let me know if there is something no living following seems that things happen at every place I’ve stayed in the past years. Help..


Cacey May 18, 2012 at 4:09 pm

Just thought of you, hope you are well!


Ruth January 3, 2012 at 8:21 am

I am happy I found this site. Monte Please Help us here, WE have been praying for my 2 brothers since 2002 for their court case (business did not go well – both lawyers) my other brother died in 2008 and the other one has been sent to jail last year 2011. His appeal was denied and is appealing again in May 2012. We have been praying and praying for God’s intervention but it seem none Please help


Cyndi December 17, 2011 at 3:55 pm

How is my son?


Bono December 8, 2011 at 4:28 pm

Hi Monte! My parents have been praying every day since March 2011 when my brother went missing. Im beginning to wonder if no one is no longer listening to them. My brother is still missing. What can one do in this situation?


Psychic Monte December 9, 2011 at 4:55 pm

Hi Bono,

Please email me at ( with the details and I’ll see what I can do to help you.



Bono December 22, 2011 at 2:31 am

Hi! I emailed you.


Bella November 15, 2011 at 1:52 am

Hi, Monte. I have been praying to my guides and asking through psychics what kind of job to look for/where to look and what field to pursue in grad. school, but it is as if my guides are ignoring my questions and refusing to help. I am directionless and unemployed. I just wasted money on psychics and got no answers. I don’t want to impose, but as a psychic, can you “see” anything about my case?


Jessica White June 17, 2014 at 2:03 am

How To Pray?

This is a little prayer that my cousin told me and I really like it.

Dear God,

I’m so pleased of what you gave me today for all the food, clothes, house, happines, family, friends, world and the best thing ever that I can be proud of, for making me born.

Thank you for your love to all of us



Jayde Shaw August 3, 2014 at 5:47 am

Thank you I really like that. We pray a lot at my school. We say good things about the world or home that he has given us and always feel sorry if I’ve done something wrong.


Psychic Monte August 3, 2014 at 6:39 pm

Hi Jayde,

Thank you for supporting your Spiritual beliefs and applying it in your school and at home when you need something or want to send blessings to those around you. The world needs more people like yourself that prays for others and wants the world to be peaceful for everyone.



sparkle August 14, 2014 at 11:12 pm

I do like that.And I am a 10 year old girl write
ing to you Iswear to god on my life that I am
10. I really like your prayer even though I don’t know you.

p.s. My name is just fake on this.


Psychic Monte August 14, 2014 at 11:55 pm

Thank you or your input and time for visiting my webpages!

Please feel free to use those prayers for your needs and understand that they will help you grow into a very beautiful woman one day.

I believe that you’re 10 and that’s ok, I’ve read young ladies your age before and younger..

Have a wonderful day!



Michelle-Rene' September 15, 2011 at 8:42 pm

This is WONDERFUL! I’m so glad I read this tonight! Thank you Monte!! :D


Psychic Monte September 20, 2011 at 3:41 am

Thank you Michelle!



Amanda B August 28, 2011 at 9:03 am

I was guided to your site today and glad, scratch that, elated to find it! Just read your post on smudging (excellant) and found this post very helpful. The part about not getting emotional during prayer….that may have been written for me! haha. Had a little episode on Friday during meditation. I have since asked for forgiveness but sometimes it can be hard to be human. I think being a spiritual guide is the hardest job on the planet. As humans we can’t make up our minds and we constantly have this ego playing devils advocate. I am certain that I have, at times, worn Old Mother (my guide) out.
On another note, I have a podcast on iTunes and would love to interview you sometime! If you are interested email me. Have a fantastic Sunday!


Psychic Monte August 28, 2011 at 1:11 pm

Hi Amanda,

Thank you for your comments and insight.

Yes, it can be challenging to keep our wits at times but being “calm and assertive” as Cesar Millan talks about goes a long way in the Spiritual world.

While it can be difficult working as a Spiritual guide at times, it’s also one of the most rewarding aspects of life to assist others on their Spiritual path..



Petra Alonso August 13, 2011 at 8:27 pm

Wow!! that is some great information. I hope that i can learn to connect with my guides and angle (s). I know I will have to do this on my own time. I do feel very connected when I’m out in nature, the grass, the trees, the ocean, etc. I have so much respect for nature.
I know i will have to read this a couple more times to absorb it all. Amazing!!


Psychic Monte August 14, 2011 at 11:59 pm

Thank you! Petra,

All of us can connect with our Guides & Angels once we open up more and learn about our Spiritual path. Some people will receive their messages in dreams and others through their daily lives, but the answers to our questions are just a heartbeat away.

No matter what, they always hear us.



Christine August 8, 2011 at 2:34 am

Ha! I just posted on your August blog asking for something to read in regards to spiritual growth and/or spirit guides and then was somehow led to this part of your page (which I’ve never read before and I’ve looked at your page many times). Amazing.

I still would really love a recommendation for a good book, though. Thank you!


worldpsychic August 8, 2011 at 4:33 am

Hi Christine,

Thank you for your question.

Yes, it’s difficult to gauge where any one person is while on their Spiritual path but I do recommend anything by Edgar Cayce, “The Celestine Prophecy“, by James Redfield. “The Secret“, by Rhonda Byrne, “Way of the Peaceful Warrior“, by Dan Millman. All of these are also movies that you can purchase or rent.

I’m not a reader myself, but have watched the movies of the books mentioned above and enjoyed them..

It takes a while to absorb or elevate your Spiritual knowledge so that some things make sense, I choose to follow a different path since some people are good at writing books and others rely on their experience like myself. It can be very confusing to read some books since it takes years to master a lot of Spiritual concepts and theories, but I’m one that believes in the old saying; “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”



L. S. July 1, 2011 at 4:30 am

Thank you so much for your time, helping ppl who need it, your a angel here on earth to many. Appreciate all you do, many Blessings to you.


worldpsychic July 1, 2011 at 6:15 am

Thank you L.S.!

It’s always my pleasure to help others through difficult times, but the blessings are always mine in knowing that we have many Angels & Guides that watch over us each day to assist in our Spiritual awakening and development.

Much Love & Laughter to you and yours,


tama pearson March 4, 2011 at 7:03 am

How do you know if you’ve connected with your angels or God?


worldpsychic March 4, 2011 at 7:23 am

Hi Tama,

That’s a really good questions!

Most of the time when I’m praying I get a sense of calm and feel relaxed, once you pray enough you can usually judge when you’re going too fast or that something may not be working just right.

Even though our Guides can hear our thoughts and prayers, when we pray to God we’re invoking a higher authority to help us. Here again, we need to be consistent not only in when we pray, but how we pray to be effective.

I know that it’s somewhat difficult for most people that aren’t use to praying to understand the concept of relaxing, or surrendering to God’s love and trusting that he and the Angels hear you words, but that’s the way it works.

Being patient and looking for the small signs that positive change will take place is paramount to success. Often times we’re looking for the big things to happen instead of all the little doors that open for us to reach our full potential. I learned the hard way that God has his one schedule for us and if we push too hard through our own impatience, it doesn’t get us any closer to what we want, we must believe with all our hearts that not only our Guides, but God desires us to be happy and successful in everything that we do..

Thank you for your question,


thecutetwin February 2, 2011 at 6:47 pm

Thank you for your input on praying. I’ve always felt like I shouldn’t pray for my own needs and that what I needed would eventually happen and when my children pray for the same thing over and over (like keeping bad dreams away) I always feel annoyed, now I know why! :) I believe!


worldpsychic February 15, 2011 at 9:53 pm

Thank you for your point-of-view and it shows that we’re all different in our needs and observations, you obviously have a higher calling where you don’t need to necessarily pray for everything that you want or need since we all have individual contracts that define our relationships with our Creator and Guides.

Have a prosperous 2011!


Randy January 24, 2011 at 4:14 am

Excellent post I’m always interested in psychic/spiritual information.I’ve always been sensitive,and I’m always interested in seeing/hearing the results prior to/or the results afterwards VERY INTERESTING,looking forward to more..thanks


worldpsychic January 26, 2011 at 8:36 am

Thank you Randy for stopping by and sharing your comments!

I’m working to transfer some new content asap this month.



Pama Lyons July 18, 2010 at 11:32 am

I have always felt that praying was hard. Thank you for this explanation. It eases my mind. I do quick prayers everyday and have often wondered if I was praying right. I will continue to do my quick prayers and now will feel happy about it.


worldpsychic November 2, 2010 at 1:00 am

Hi Pama,

Praying is easy once you understand the process and ask for what you need..

Thank you for your support!


Jeannie June 21, 2010 at 12:29 am

This is great! Short, sweet and to the point, not only your message but how ours should be! Thanks, Monte!


Rita Mahdavi June 1, 2010 at 6:31 pm

This was so helpful–especially the part on keeping it short and simple. That makes the idea of praying on a daily basis so doable! Thank-you!


Ces December 26, 2009 at 5:46 am

Your article makes so much sense.

Thanks… have been enjoying and have been devouring your write ups for hours now since i chanced upon it this morning…


Katerine December 6, 2009 at 9:49 pm

thank you for posting this. Its very useful.


terri Mcdaniel November 22, 2009 at 11:42 pm

Well, said!


Lori Stark October 26, 2009 at 7:50 am

Thank you for this guide to prayer. It is very helpful.


chapple norris October 17, 2009 at 4:14 am

This is awesome!!! I really enjoy reading all this. Believe this is so true!!


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